Where is this OB and why aren’t they teaching somewhere??

My OB said this to me yesterday! Glad I am not the only one Yep, got me a St. Patrick’s Day baby girl… she is so perfect!

What a wonderful post! I don’t often hear stories that are this good.

What a lovely, kind OB. Wow.

This was my OB! I ended up having no progress after laboring for 18 hours at home with ruptured membranes and GBS+. She was so kind and asked me if I wanted to labor longer!

The section was totally my decision (unlike the one I felt coerced into the first time.) I never imagined that I would end up feeling so happy and empowered, despite not having the birth that I was planning for.

We were going to stop at two kids, but I loved my last birth so much that now I’m not sure. I love my OB!

To all the MDs reading this –
This birth was not what the mother had in mind.
But the respect that her caregiver showed her made it a beautiful experience anyway.
We’re not all stubborn and immovable and we don’t refuse everything that you want to do.
We just want to ‘be there’ and make our own decisions, and we appreciate when you respect our desires, EVEN (and maybe especially) when they can’t be met.

Not my comment but also could have been mine. I ended up with cbac and while it is still hard for me to think about it, I did feel empowered. My OB did not pressure me (he wanted “a plan” but it was up to me), didn’t check me, and acknowledged that having your water break, no contractions, and only being 2 cm dilated was a tough situation even if one wasn’t a VBAC. I had great nurses who were assigned with me because I wanted a natural labor. They could tell how hard I was working and were cheering for me and knew how tough it was for me to decide on a CBAC after 18 hours with freedom of movement, stronger contractions, and no progress. A c-section is a very different beast when you don’t feel bullied, you understand what is happening to you, and you get to call the shots. I’m still sad I ended up with a repeat, but I did every thing I could and was validated in that.

I had a CBAC after laboring almost 20 hours. My midwife was out of town (AHH!) and the OB on call was not the doctor I had seen before. I was scared to death of a CBAC. I felt like a failure. But to have my doula, nurses, and my midwife (later) tell me that I did everything right was some comfort. Don’t settle! Tell them you want intermittent monitoring! Tell them you want to get in the shower or whirlpool! Get out of the bed! My one dislike about cesareans is the mother usually doesn’t get to hold their baby for a long time! It was almost an hour for both of my births. I honestly feel cheated out of that wonderful bonding experience that my husband had. With my first they didn’t even show him to me until he was wrapped up. I wish this was different!