Comments on: “Let Me Do My Job As The Doctor…” http://myobsaidwhat.com/2010/02/13/let-me-do-my-job-as-the-doctor/ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 10:58:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Brittney http://myobsaidwhat.com/2010/02/13/let-me-do-my-job-as-the-doctor/comment-page-1/#comment-4615 Brittney Thu, 25 Feb 2010 08:05:46 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=1175#comment-4615 Okay, this exact same thing actually happened to me while I was PUSHING!! I had mechonium with my 2nd, and because I had been in labor for 21 hours, and had had clear fluid for over 12, as I was crowning I said, "As long as his lungs are clear, please place him directly on my chest, and please don't clamp his cord until it stops pulsating, and I'd like to deliver the placenta naturally." Unfortunatly my CNM was out of town for Thanksgiving when I delivered, so everything we had discussed had to be discussed with the dr on call *grrrr*, and since this was the first time I had seen her the entire time (yes, as I was crowning) this was when we needed to discuss it. She looked at me and said, "Will you stop trying to control every aspect of this birth!?!" Now granted, I had been very *demanding* wanting to walk around during my labor, wanting to eat, wanting to shower since they wouldn't let me use the tub we had rented and brought with us ("because your water broke, it's unsanitary"), wanting to use every method known to me and my doula to jump start contractions without pit, not allowing them to give me iv fluids, etc. When his head was delivered and she had suctioned him and said it didn't look there was any mechonium in left, or in his mouth, I quickly pushed out his shoulders and grabbed him myself, before she could! That may be why she completely ignored me and clamped his cord immediately and looks so pissed at me in the pictures. I was not about to let her tell ME that I couldn't have my baby! Okay, this exact same thing actually happened to me while I was PUSHING!! I had mechonium with my 2nd, and because I had been in labor for 21 hours, and had had clear fluid for over 12, as I was crowning I said, “As long as his lungs are clear, please place him directly on my chest, and please don’t clamp his cord until it stops pulsating, and I’d like to deliver the placenta naturally.”

Unfortunatly my CNM was out of town for Thanksgiving when I delivered, so everything we had discussed had to be discussed with the dr on call *grrrr*, and since this was the first time I had seen her the entire time (yes, as I was crowning) this was when we needed to discuss it. She looked at me and said, “Will you stop trying to control every aspect of this birth!?!”

Now granted, I had been very *demanding* wanting to walk around during my labor, wanting to eat, wanting to shower since they wouldn’t let me use the tub we had rented and brought with us (“because your water broke, it’s unsanitary”), wanting to use every method known to me and my doula to jump start contractions without pit, not allowing them to give me iv fluids, etc.

When his head was delivered and she had suctioned him and said it didn’t look there was any mechonium in left, or in his mouth, I quickly pushed out his shoulders and grabbed him myself, before she could! That may be why she completely ignored me and clamped his cord immediately and looks so pissed at me in the pictures. I was not about to let her tell ME that I couldn’t have my baby!

]]> By: Heather P http://myobsaidwhat.com/2010/02/13/let-me-do-my-job-as-the-doctor/comment-page-1/#comment-4151 Heather P Sun, 14 Feb 2010 18:32:47 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=1175#comment-4151 How horrible! I hope her second birth was better at the new hospital. I'm surprised she hired him again the second time. How horrible! I hope her second birth was better at the new hospital. I’m surprised she hired him again the second time.

]]> By: Jayn http://myobsaidwhat.com/2010/02/13/let-me-do-my-job-as-the-doctor/comment-page-1/#comment-4134 Jayn Sun, 14 Feb 2010 00:25:15 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=1175#comment-4134 Dear lord, that's horrible! It's hard enough to lose someone when it's unavoidable. Dear lord, that’s horrible! It’s hard enough to lose someone when it’s unavoidable.

]]> By: Sheva http://myobsaidwhat.com/2010/02/13/let-me-do-my-job-as-the-doctor/comment-page-1/#comment-4133 Sheva Sun, 14 Feb 2010 00:20:29 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=1175#comment-4133 At least he showed his hand in this one! And hopefully she switched. Ladies, you can switch all the way up until the baby comes out. I have one friend who switched in her ninth month, and another who switched while already in labor - to another hospital. Her doc had pretended to be on board for her VBAC and promised no intervention, etc, and when she got to the hospital her totally changed his tune. She walked out of there to the chorus of the 'dead baby' song. Her first baby was a C-section with this doc because her water broke prematurely. He didn't have the shot of steroids to help speed up the development of the baby's lungs before the section, and instead of waiting a bit or transferring to any of the other gazillion hospitals in the area, he did an 'emergency section' at 30 weeks in his hospital with only a Tier One NICU and the baby died. And he was blaming her for not wanting another go with him! She was NOT a good patient this time. But then, good patient does not always equal healthy baby. At least he showed his hand in this one! And hopefully she switched.
Ladies, you can switch all the way up until the baby comes out. I have one friend who switched in her ninth month, and another who switched while already in labor – to another hospital.
Her doc had pretended to be on board for her VBAC and promised no intervention, etc, and when she got to the hospital her totally changed his tune.
She walked out of there to the chorus of the ‘dead baby’ song.
Her first baby was a C-section with this doc because her water broke prematurely. He didn’t have the shot of steroids to help speed up the development of the baby’s lungs before the section, and instead of waiting a bit or transferring to any of the other gazillion hospitals in the area, he did an ‘emergency section’ at 30 weeks in his hospital with only a Tier One NICU and the baby died. And he was blaming her for not wanting another go with him!
She was NOT a good patient this time.
But then, good patient does not always equal healthy baby.

]]> By: Laura http://myobsaidwhat.com/2010/02/13/let-me-do-my-job-as-the-doctor/comment-page-1/#comment-4128 Laura Sat, 13 Feb 2010 23:44:34 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=1175#comment-4128 EXACTLY! I SO wish people would get this. You don't work for the doctor, the doctor works for YOU! EXACTLY! I SO wish people would get this. You don’t work for the doctor, the doctor works for YOU!

]]> By: Lauren http://myobsaidwhat.com/2010/02/13/let-me-do-my-job-as-the-doctor/comment-page-1/#comment-4127 Lauren Sat, 13 Feb 2010 23:01:11 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=1175#comment-4127 Good patient = sheep. *GAG* Good patient = sheep. *GAG*

]]> By: Heather P http://myobsaidwhat.com/2010/02/13/let-me-do-my-job-as-the-doctor/comment-page-1/#comment-4126 Heather P Sat, 13 Feb 2010 18:13:50 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=1175#comment-4126 What is a good patient? Does it make somebody not a good patient if they want to know ahead of time what a procedure is? Just asking questions doesn't make one a bad patient. (again, I dispise the word patient refering to normal pregnant women) If my doctor didn't even want to answer basic questions, (s)he'd be fired in an instant. I hope this mother wasn't already in labor at this point and this was a pre-natal discussion. What is a good patient? Does it make somebody not a good patient if they want to know ahead of time what a procedure is? Just asking questions doesn’t make one a bad patient. (again, I dispise the word patient refering to normal pregnant women)

If my doctor didn’t even want to answer basic questions, (s)he’d be fired in an instant. I hope this mother wasn’t already in labor at this point and this was a pre-natal discussion.

]]> By: Heather (qtberryhead) http://myobsaidwhat.com/2010/02/13/let-me-do-my-job-as-the-doctor/comment-page-1/#comment-4123 Heather (qtberryhead) Sat, 13 Feb 2010 15:21:58 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=1175#comment-4123 "Then let me do my job as a woman!" “Then let me do my job as a woman!”

]]> By: Amelia http://myobsaidwhat.com/2010/02/13/let-me-do-my-job-as-the-doctor/comment-page-1/#comment-4122 Amelia Sat, 13 Feb 2010 15:03:35 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=1175#comment-4122 Jane, exactly! The doctor is my source for medications/tests/information when I need medications/tests/information. That is his job. Jane, exactly! The doctor is my source for medications/tests/information when I need medications/tests/information. That is his job.

]]> By: Genet http://myobsaidwhat.com/2010/02/13/let-me-do-my-job-as-the-doctor/comment-page-1/#comment-4121 Genet Sat, 13 Feb 2010 14:56:21 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=1175#comment-4121 Sorry, doc, I have no job in this relationship. WE hired YOU. If anything, it's my job to make the best decisions for myself and my baby, and that means getting information. Now you do your job and be a good doctor! Sorry, doc, I have no job in this relationship. WE hired YOU. If anything, it’s my job to make the best decisions for myself and my baby, and that means getting information.

Now you do your job and be a good doctor!

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