Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“Did You Take Any Childbirth Classes…?”
L&D Nurse: “Did you take any childbirth classes?”
Mother: “No”
L&D Nurse: “Good. Then we don’t have any bad habits to break!”
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Unless, of course, she enrolls in the hospital’s own Obedience Training—er, (cough!) I mean . . . . “childbirth education class.” Then she’s been properly indoctrinated.
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My first thought was, “Does your hospital offer these childbirth classes? Then is your own hospital putting out that kind of a crappy product? And is that same horrible hospital also authorizing what YOU do…?”
And what kind of bad habits would you have? The habit of handling things yourself, or the habit of asking questions and gaining information?
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The Deranged Housewife had this to say,
Feb 3, 2010 @ 8:29 am (Quote)
Good, then you won’t know anything and we can just do what we want to you!
Although this conversation should be turned around…
Mom: Did you take any childbirth classes?
Nurse: No.
Mom: Good, then we can break some bad habits!
LOL
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Becky: My jaw literally hit the floor. (seriously, I was laying on the floor when I read this)We all know OB’s are pieces of garbage, I expect more from my fellow women-with-wombs! Goodness!
I’ve seen female OB’s do things that made my hair stand on end. I’ve submitted a few and we’ll see if they show up sooner or later here. In my circle of doulas all the really “bad” OBs we’ve seen are female.
Besides, it doesn’t specify the gender of the L&D nurse in the OP. It could be a male nurse for all we know.
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Mariah Reply:
February 4th, 2010 at 11:27 pm (Quote)
The OB I ended up firing was female. She was so callous and kept trying to scare/intimidate me. When that didn’t work she flat out told me she ‘couldn’t wait for a natural birth because that could take hours’. I found a new doctor at 38 weeks (there are only TWO in the entire city of Las Vegas that will even do a VBAC) and he fought for me every step of the way! I wish there were more like him that admire and support the female body doing what nature intended it to do.
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Heather P Reply:
February 5th, 2010 at 6:27 pm (Quote)
Yep. Some people will only go with female care providers in the mistaken belief that women will be more empathetic. Some women are, some not. It matters more what’s between their ears than what’s between their legs.
Awesome that your second OB was so supportive! You should submit something he said for Thoughtful Thursdays. 
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In defense, I kind of get this statement. With my first, I took the hospital’s childbirth classes, but it really seemed like the class should have been titled “How to get an epidural and be medicated through your labor”. When walking the halls for four hours with my CNM while in labor, we discussed the class, and she said something similar. The hospital kept the class because the students kept giving it such high ratings on surveys, but my CNM desperately wanted it revamped. So she was nervous that I would come in, ready to receive my epidural. So I can totally understand this comment.
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So the L&D nurses are there to conform everyone to their will…good to know!
This is just one more reason I want a home birth next time!
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Mistie Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 6:17 am Mistie(Quote)
Do it Lauren, do it! I am in about 4-6 weeks (we’ll see when she decides to come).
My L&D nurse with my first was awesome, I wouldn’t have traded her for anything, but with my second child.. they were all impersonal robots. My SIL is one and I’m sure she is a good one as she is very attentive & friendly, but really they are becoming just as cynical and medical as the Doctors they work for. She herself is pretty medical, but is at least open to making Mothers feel comfortable and doing what they want to.
I have to say that the care I have received from my Midwife has been outstanding! Better than any Doctor I have ever had. Plus I needed an IV earlier in my pregnancy from dehydration and she came to my house to give it to me, at my house! Like when you watch Little House on the Prairie and you see Doc Baker and think, I want a Dr. like that. She IS like that! Or when you are reading Ina May and you think, I want that, ok, THAT is how she is, lol. Midwives Rock!
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Lauren Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 7:17 am Lauren(Quote)
SO glad you’re being treated so well! I hope your homebirth rocks!
Unfortunately there are no homebirth midwives in Guam, where we are currently stationed with the military. I had my second child 3 months ago (my VBAC!!!), and planned a home UC. After 3 days of intense prodromal labor and 2 of active, I agreed to go to the hospital. *My mom and husband were freaking out LOL.* Anyway, turns out I was not dilating well since I had scarring on my cervix, so my dr massaged it to break it up; that allowed me to have my VBAC.
For the record, I had checked myself at home a few times and was getting discouraged a bit since I’d been at 5 cm for over 24 hours. The contractions were VERY tough and I wasn’t able to sleep or eat/drink much at all. I’m disappointed at times that I didn’t get my home UC, but my dr was an ANGEL!!! After my traumatic unnecesarean with my first, this was extremely healing for me. The only sad thing was the cervical scar tissue; I found out I got it from being MANUALLY dilated during my C-section. How nasty is that??? 
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Sheva Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 1:50 pm Sheva(Quote)
What would be the medical reason of dilating a woman during a c-section??!
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Lauren Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 7:32 pm Lauren(Quote)
Apparently to allow her to bleed vaginally after (I was not in labor when he sectioned me). Seems like a load of crap to me. My OB with my first was a monster, and I’m sure that he never thought I would try a VBAC, so in his mind who cared what he did to my poor cervix??
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becky Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 10:16 pm becky(Quote)
that IS a load of crap. it’s called digital rape and that OB is a monster. trust me, your body does just fine cleaning out the uterus without help. it does it once a month, and scheduled c’s in the hospitals i’ve worked have never been subjected to what was described. a little part of me just died, hearing it happened to someone in this day and age. disgusting.
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Lauren Reply:
February 4th, 2010 at 3:51 am Lauren(Quote)
Thank you. This barely scratches the surface of the hell he put me through. I had PTSD for months following that birth.
I was incredibly horrified to discover that this happened to me, and soooooooo thankful I used EPO vaginally beginning at 37 weeks; who knows how hard the scar tissue would have been without it?
And you’re correct about the rape aspect here; that exactly how I felt hearing how I got the scarring!
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Mariah Reply:
February 4th, 2010 at 11:17 pm Mariah(Quote)
Lauren, you and I should talk! I had PTSD after an unexpected emergency section 3 years ago and a horrible hospital stay (the OB was wonderful but the nurses were insane – one DROPPED my 4lb daughter!); no one understood and I got treated like I was ridiculous for feeling the way I did. I had my VBAC baby in September and I did not realize how much I’d been hurt until then, if that makes sense? It’s such a healing experience, I have no words. Just sort of like something was missing that I never knew I needed, ykwim?
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Lauren Reply:
February 5th, 2010 at 3:31 pm Lauren(Quote)
I agree, email me at lalenalove21@hotmail.com so we can talk!!!
You poor thing.
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