Comments on: “Every Day Past 40 Weeks, A Baby Dies More and More.”

By: Lisa b

Lisa b — Sat, 12 Feb 2011 02:46:36 +0000

JulieAnna I am so very very sorry for your loss
I wish there were something I could offer
Perhaps you might like to connect with other babylost moms at Glow in the Woods if you have not already found them.

By: Lil

Lil — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 16:24:03 +0000

I am so sorry JulieAnna. There is so much we still don’t really understand about birth – despite the centuaries the human race has been doing it! I was obviously very lucky with my 29 day late daughter. I too have had still births, and I wish I could say all the pain will go away, but it doesn’t. However, it’s like a deep injury, although it’ll never go away, and you’ll be left with a deep scar, the pain will ease a little and you will learn to live with it. My thoughts and prayers are with you and all those effected by your son’s death.

By: Jane

Jane — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 11:54:01 +0000

If you get ten of them in an hour while you’re lying still, it’s a pretty good bed the baby is alive.

By: JulieAnna

JulieAnna — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 03:17:47 +0000

bowels adjusting… last nerve endings in your babies dead brain firing off a few last kicks… your muscles and movements moving it around…
kick counts aren’t for sure by any means.

By: JulieAnna

JulieAnna — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 03:15:07 +0000

My beautiful and perfect son Vaughnie was stillborn Jan 2nd 2011. I went in on Tuesday- heartbeat was 135…. a week prior to that it was 180… by Thursday when I went into spontaneous labor FINALLY at 41w 6d…. there was no heartbeat at the hospital. I am an emotional wreck- medicated to the high hilt- had to drop all my college classes-job- etc. I can’t even drive myself anywhere from all the meds I’m on. I am changed for the rest of my life. Listen to your dang doctor- they know ‘you’ and they know ‘your’ situation. My doctors didn’t listen- and I’m going to sue the crap out of them. Don’t put yourself in my situation if you can help it.

By: JulieAnna

JulieAnna — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 03:07:26 +0000

Mine did. 41w 6d… my beautiful and perfectly healthy baby died of ‘cardiac arrest.’ on Jan 2nd 2011. The autoposy listed his death as ‘unknown causes’.

By: JulieAnna

JulieAnna — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 03:05:11 +0000

My baby son was born stillborn on Jan 2nd 2011 at 41w 6d. He was perfectly healthy… or so they said. Even though his decreased fetal movements started around week 38 and his heart rate averaged 180 on Dec 21st. I applaud your doctor. The placenta starts dying after 40 weeks- not the baby…. but some placentas are strong enough to still support the baby for another 2 weeks. Some are not… as in my case. Listen to the doctor that knows you and your body. My doctor didn’t listen when I pleaded and pleaded to get induced at 40 weeks- I KNEW SOMETHING WAS WRONG! He was alive on Tuesday- dead by Thursday when my body went into labor naturally. Having a stillborn- will change your life FOREVER.

By: Jamie

Jamie — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 21:46:32 +0000

My 2nd son is only a *little* dead, as he came along at 4 days ‘late,’ but his older brother was nearly 2 weeks late (just shy of that magical 42wk point).

My MW offered to strip my membranes with #2 when I was just shy of 39 wks. I declined. When he came on his own, a week and a half later, he was a bare 6.5lbs, *covered* in vernix.

So, he was *barely* term *and* a little dead?

By: Lil

Lil — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 20:34:17 +0000

My third child was born 29 days late! I was living in Germany then, and was very frustrated at the constant ‘haven’t you had that baby yet’ comments! On return to the UK, I was very worried when I was told that UK policy isn’t to go past 42 weeks (by THEIR dates mind you) because the baby is likely to die suddenly and with no warning….it’s amazing how different places and countries come up with completely different ideas!

By: Jade

Jade — Sat, 30 Oct 2010 10:43:43 +0000

Wow, I think I must have one of the most dead babies I have ever heard of. Surely by 43 weeks and 5 days she should have been much deader than she appears to be?? very loud and messy for a dead person ans she seems to be growing too?? not sure how or why?

And like Michelle Potter said, I am confident that if my daughter had been induced when “they” said she should come then she would have needed NICU or SCU. She wasn’t baked until nearly 44 weeks (according to “their” dates, more like 42 by mine)