Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
Jan
9
Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“I Let You Go This Long.”
“I let you go this long.” -OB to mothering at just 41 weeks, who did not want to be induced, had an uncomplicated pregnancy and had consistently been measuring one week behind.
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“Well, I guess I should thank you for your courtesy of not inducing me before now. OK, jab me in the arm and shove medicine in me that will give me contractions that are too strong or lead to a c-section.” (smacks herself on the forehead).
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mommymichael had this to say,
Jan 9, 2010 @ 7:30 am (Quote)
between my midwife’s dating wheel, my dating wheel, what the maternal fetal medicine doctor says.. I have about 3 different due dates. Granted they’re all within 2 weeks of each other, but that sure as hell matters, especially since the MFM doctor’s due date comes first. lol By the time I’d get to my wheel I’d already be about 4-5 days past his due date for me. Besides his is subject to change with an ulstrasound “your baby is big, so your due date is now…..”
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Katie had this to say,
Jan 9, 2010 @ 7:47 am (Quote)
My due date from my LMP was April 24, but at my ultrasound at 22 weeks i was measuring 25, so my doc moved my EDD to April 7. On the 17th he talked me into inducing, i didnt know i could turn him down. after two days of painful contractions and no progress, a different doc came in, did a U/S and said i was only 38 1/2 weeks and sent me home. I started labor on my own on the 22nd and had a perfectly sized little boy on the 23rd.
It was my first pregnancy, and only so far, but I’m much more aware of my rights for future ones!
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I HATE those stupid wheels. They assume everybody ovulates 14 days after their LMP and then they’re locked into that due date. Even on fertility meds, I ovulate three weeks after my LMP. If I have to see an Ob/Gyn, I plan on giving them a fake date of two weeks before I ovulated, just so I get that extra week’s leeway.
I have to wonder why they are so very focused on these dates when every week they change them!
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mommymichael Reply:
January 9th, 2010 at 8:14 am (Quote)
I ovulate just before my cycle begins. With both my sons, it was a week after my missed period before I would get a positive test – including a blood test. I had one nurse tell me that it was negative. “you’re DEFINITELY not pregnant. Sorry hun.”
I’ve had 5 pregnancies (including this one). Two of them miscarriages. With every single one except this one, I didn’t get a positive test until AFTER my missed period. That’s with using all different brands too!
This little girl is the one that’s difference. I took a test expecting it to be negative on my missed period, and was surprised to actually see a glaring positive line.
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Jane Reply:
January 9th, 2010 at 11:28 am (Quote)
In my second pregnancy, after the nurse was TOTALLY unable to grasp that if you ovulate two weeks after the wheel says you would have ovulated, then the baby is two weeks younger than the wheel says, I finally “remembered” my LMP as two weeks before I ovulated. She was delighted and wrote it down, calculated the due-date, and amazingly it was exactly what I said it was.
(I’m not sure if that’s the time I said, “I ovulated on the XXth,” and the nurse said, “And how would you KNOW that?” I replied, “My temperature went up four tenths of a degree, my cervical mucus changed in quality from slippery to nothing at all, and my cervix position changed.” She said, “Oh. Okay, then.” Yeah, because women normally walk around saying, “I bet I ovulated on the fifth! Yeah! There’s a good eggie!”)
When I changed practices, the midwife looked at my chart and said, “Wait a minute! If your cycles are usually longer, then your due-date–” and I said, “I lied.” She looked at me, then burst out laughing. I showed her my chart with the ovulation on it, and she said something to the effect that she couldn’t believe I’d had to do that.
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Knitted in the Womb Reply:
January 9th, 2010 at 5:51 pm (Quote)
Ever since my second pregnancy, I’ve just told when I ovulate because I ovulate on about day 19-10. When they ask for LMP I say “I don’t care what you put down for LMP. I ovulated on…” I’ve had good care providers who haven’t argued with that.
Ever since my 3rd pregnancy I feel sharp cramping for about 20 minutes when I ovulate…so if I ovulate in the daytime, I know pretty clearly when it happens. LOL. Last month I was laying in bed with hubby that night and I said, totally deadpan, “I ovulated today in Wegmans, want to make a baby”–and then I burst out laughing as I realized how funny it sounded.
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Wow. I have PCOS but still ovulate sometimes but ONLY past the 18th day of my cycle and sometimes as late as 32 days in. I’d love to see the look on their face if they told me I was measuring 3 weeks too small. I’d still be ovulating when a 28 day’er would start doing pregnancy photos… ^_^
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Kathy Reply:
January 9th, 2010 at 11:28 am (Quote)
I’ve read a story of a woman in the reverse situation – she knew without a doubt the last day she had had sex, so the latest possible date of conception, but the doctor never listened to her, insisting that her due date was 2-3 weeks later than what it would have been according to her known conception date. Of course, with all the docs insisting on inductions for going past your due date, I’d be more likely to welcome a late date, but she was terrified of fetal demise when she was 42-43 weeks and the doc insisted that she was 39-40.
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I have long cycles and conceived my dd while in a long distance relationship. There was DEFINITELY only a two day window conception could have occurred! (well, or a couple days after that.. but NOT before) By LMP I was given a edd of feb 1, but I knew it was feb 10. Even when I had an ultrasound at 18w5d that agreed with me exactly on the date (i know u/s that late aren’t reliable, but it was accurate in my case) the cnm said they only change it if the difference is two weeks+, “but you’ll probably go late” argh! Having a edd 10 days earlier than it should be means I’m going to start hearing pressure to induce when I’m barely 40 weeks! I switched to a home birth midwife, and ironically went into labor on feb 1 anyway. Go figure.
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Heather (qtberryhead) had this to say,
Jan 9, 2010 @ 1:06 pm (Quote)
“And I let you be my OB this long. Now what Sparky?”
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Ahh – this one’s mine. Besides the measurements being consistently behind, the context was of course trying to “talk induction.” I had had an ultrasound at 40-weeks, and the baby was estimated at 6lbs. Then at 41-weeks, my OB said, “All of my colleagues would have had you induced as soon as they saw [that the baby measured 6lbs at 40-weeks]. I let you go this long.” Really ticked me off, and I plan to lie about my LMP if ever I use an OB again. … (Btw, I ended up induced after 42 weeks, and the baby was under 7lbs. …)
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Two things come into mind as a response for this post and the replies. I was talking with my mother in law how my mother went almost 2 full weeks past due with her second pregnancy (I’m in my 2nd right now) so I’m not really counting on my due date. She says “I don’t think they let you go that long anymore”. It took me a couple of breaths to resist the urge to look at her like she was completely off her rocker and just told her ‘its not their choice’.
My cycle is a bit longer 30 days, and regular as clockwork, but coming off birth control for my first pregnancy it was bouncing all over the place, so we never were sure if we had the right due date, could have been 2 weeks either way. Baby was born on his due date but I still wonder if he was ‘actually’ early, late, or ‘on time’.
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What I hate hearing – and I hear it all the time – is when women say “my doctor won’t let me” or “my doctor won’t allow me to” – as if we need permission! as if we are children and they are the parent! as if they had any real say in the matter! And its unbelievable how many highly educated women give these doctors (often men) this much power over them! as if they were slaves! If a doctor ever used such authoritarian words on me, I would find a new doctor asap! They work for me – I pay them – not the other way around!
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Friendly reminder: a doctor cannot induce you if you fail to show up. And we all know how “forgetful” pregnant moms can be.
This kind of junk is why after my first pregnancy, I never told them my LMP. I’d just walk in and tell them my due-date.
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Charity Reply:
January 9th, 2010 at 4:57 am Charity(Quote)
My midwife’s nurses constantly asks what my LMP was. Why, you may ask? “Because you might be wrong about your due date, so we have to make sure.” WTF? Every visit, same thing. It sucked. They finally believed me by the third baby.
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Jane Reply:
January 9th, 2010 at 5:06 am Jane(Quote)
After a certain point, I just started saying, “I don’t know when my period started.” Then I’d say, “But I ovulated on the sixteenth.” They thought I was gunning for a dating ultrasound, but I turned that down too.
(Good thing, because the dating ultrasound would have upheld the LMP date and they’d have been pressuring me to induce. My babies are just born big.)
The third baby with one practice,the midwife looked at me and said, “I’m not going ask. You know what you’re doing.” Again, baby born on due-date.
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