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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“It Might Be A Miscarriage, But What Do You Care…”
“It might be a miscarriage, but what do you care? Let’s just put you on some birth control and end your bleeding ASAP.” – OB-to woman having a terribly heavy period/possible miscarriage after 2 years of trying to conceive.
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Paula Runyan had this to say,
Dec 26, 2009 @ 9:43 am (Quote)
This one truly makes me angry!!!!!
I have had MANY miscarriages. No full terms.
Some may not agree with this thought, but an “industry” that provides abortions, should not be involved in birthing.
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Tiffany Reply:
December 26th, 2009 at 3:22 pm (Quote)
Where exactly was anything having to do with abortion said in the above post? I’m a little lost. All I see is some inconsiderate douchbag, two actually.
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Michelle Potter Reply:
December 26th, 2009 at 6:38 pm (Quote)
I’m trying to figure out what to say here, because this is a sticky subject. If Paula is pro-life (I’m guessing she is), and has had multiple miscarriages, it sounds like she might be feeling hurt over the idea of someone aborting their baby when she wants so badly to have one and has had these terrible losses. She sounds like she may be feeling that someone who performs abortions may see a miscarriage as not a big deal, because after all, they have intentionally ended pregnancies at that same age and this was just nature taking its course. (I have heard people actually take this attitude. Some people believe that a baby is not worth anything until it is born, REGARDLESS OF THE MOTHER’S FEELINGS, which leads them to be cruel to mothers who have miscarried wanted babies.)
This is such a hard issue, which can involve hurt feelings on both sides. I hope we can all try to be sensitive both to Paula, who has clearly experienced much pain over her miscarriages, and to the mom who submitted this quote by not getting into a fight over abortion, but instead focusing on the rude comment by the jerk of an OB.
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Paula Runyan Reply:
December 28th, 2009 at 1:15 pm (Quote)
I feel its quite clear.
Birth and termination services are offered int eh smae building usually.
How can we expect a compassionate attitude over a loss, when these people are trained to see pregnancy as a medical condition, that can be terminated at will?
As long as the training for both birth and termination are offered in the same institution, we will continue to see callous attitudes along these same lines.
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Summer Reply:
December 29th, 2009 at 4:44 pm (Quote)
Not every place that offers birth services also offers abortion services, there was no mention of this being such a place, and there are plenty of pro-life doctors who speak and act like complete assholes towards women. Often because they see pregnant women as only brood mares with no humanity. (Not all pro-life people are against birth control, and birth control is not always given just to prevent birth. I’m assuming the BC here was given to regulate hormone levels back to normal.)
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Knitted in the Womb had this to say,
Dec 26, 2009 @ 10:17 am (Quote)
I have a friend who is 40, and about 2 months ago discovered she was pregnant with her 5th child–a WANTED child. From the moment she went to the OB, staff were telling her about how it was pretty much guarunteed that she would miscarry, and she really shouldn’t have tried getting pregnant. She got to where she was having nightmares about it.
Then she did miscarry, and she wonders if all the stress was what did it.
Same practice…another person I know recently got pregnant unexpectedly. She has 5 children, with two previous cesareans. She was days away from her husband getting a V when she found out she was pregnant. Despite all this, she is happy to be pregnant. After her most recent birth, the OB tried to convince her to get a tubal. So this time around, she goes in, and they say to her “we told you that you should get a tubal!” How sweet.
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Wren's Mama had this to say,
Jul 13, 2010 @ 9:16 pm (Quote)
Wow. And when I went to get birth control after having my daughter, they wouldnt give me the kind I wanted. I was breastfeeding, so I couldnt take the regular pills, the mini doesnt work for me, I have severe period cramps (as in labor/transition/pushing/ringoffire/delivery has nothing on them) and cant have the copper IUD, so I requested the plastic one…no go.
That was horrible for the ob to say, a miscarriage is tramatic to most EVERYONE who has one. One of my best friends had 5 before concieving her beautiful, now 4 year old daughter.
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Oh. My. God.
As someone who has had multiple miscarriages this makes me really cringe. Poor, poor woman.
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