Dec 20

“…You’ve Never Really Had Anything That Big Come Through There Before.”

“Well, of course it’s intense, you’ve never really had anything that big come through there before.” -OB to VBAC mom complaining about the pressure and sensations of pushing/

OB then turns to the dad; “No offense.”

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Leigh had this to say, Dec 20, 2009 @ 4:44 pm (Quote)

Oh, that’s cute!

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Heather Payne had this to say, Dec 20, 2009 @ 4:53 pm (Quote)

Oh brother. Don’t know where to start with this one.

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Dawn had this to say, Dec 21, 2009 @ 6:10 am (Quote)

Why do they insist on the sexual during birth. All I can say is “duh.”

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Leigh Reply:
December 23rd, 2009 at 4:42 pm Leigh(Quote)

Well, birth IS sexual. That’s why the word sexual is in “sexual reproduction.” (Having a baby=reproducing.)

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Dawn Reply:
December 23rd, 2009 at 6:03 pm Dawn(Quote)

I do know it’s reproduction, but for me the moment of birth is not a time to point anything out to my husband or to me about his size…or the size of anything coming into my body. Birth is not the same kind of sexual as having sex…not for me.

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Dawn Reply:
December 23rd, 2009 at 6:05 pm Dawn(Quote)

Birth is the end result of sexual intimacy, not a time when a doctor or nurse…or midwife should be pointing to any part of my body and making crude comments. I do not have sex with a doctor, nurse, or midwife in the room.

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Jane Reply:
December 23rd, 2009 at 7:11 pm Jane(Quote)

Because if we did, they’d criticize that the foreplay was taking too long, make the couple have intercourse on chairs set up four feet apart because it’s easier to observe that way, stop in order to assess the man’s readiness every five minutes, and then get out some kind of equipment to get the sperm into the uterus better because obviously nature wasn’t going to work this time.

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Leigh Reply:
December 24th, 2009 at 7:40 pm Leigh(Quote)

HA. Very true Jane.

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Megan had this to say, Dec 21, 2009 @ 9:34 am (Quote)

I have to say, this one kind of made me chuckle, only b/c I know my husband would’ve laughed if the OB had said this to him. I would’ve laughed too but probably after I got done pushing out the baby

It seems like this was said ‘lightheartedly’…and it’s kind of nice to see posts that don’t make me immediately cringe and want to hit something. The ignorance, the indifference, and misinformation that I see on this site from OBs, midwives, nurses, etc. is INFURIATING.

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