Comments on: “Welcome To The Tight Vagina Club.” http://myobsaidwhat.com/2009/12/07/welcome-to-the-tight-vagina-club/ Wed, 23 May 2012 09:45:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Marissa http://myobsaidwhat.com/2009/12/07/welcome-to-the-tight-vagina-club/comment-page-1/#comment-23965 Marissa Sat, 13 Nov 2010 17:53:42 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=631#comment-23965 was it a male ob? was it a male ob?

]]> By: Marissa http://myobsaidwhat.com/2009/12/07/welcome-to-the-tight-vagina-club/comment-page-1/#comment-23964 Marissa Sat, 13 Nov 2010 17:49:46 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=631#comment-23964 i made up the vagina club and googled it and there is one i made up the vagina club and googled it and there is one

]]> By: The Deranged Housewife http://myobsaidwhat.com/2009/12/07/welcome-to-the-tight-vagina-club/comment-page-1/#comment-3653 The Deranged Housewife Wed, 03 Feb 2010 19:13:51 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=631#comment-3653 And yet, we assume this comment was made by a male OB. Whenever I read these things, my mind automatically thinks "female OB." They are sadistic that way, as if because they, too, have vaginas, they can treat us as "equals" and somehow just *know* what we're experiencing. Yeah, whatever. And yet, we assume this comment was made by a male OB. Whenever I read these things, my mind automatically thinks “female OB.” They are sadistic that way, as if because they, too, have vaginas, they can treat us as “equals” and somehow just *know* what we’re experiencing. Yeah, whatever.

]]> By: Kathy http://myobsaidwhat.com/2009/12/07/welcome-to-the-tight-vagina-club/comment-page-1/#comment-2376 Kathy Tue, 29 Dec 2009 01:33:20 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=631#comment-2376 Melanie, you may want to check out the new book "Ending Female Pain". Click *<a href="http://womantowomancbe.wordpress.com/2009/12/19/ending-female-pain/" rel="nofollow">here</a>* for my review of it, plus more links. A lot of the time, doctors don't have any help to offer, or can see nothing "clinically" wrong, when there *is* something wrong -- something that perhaps can be fixed. Melanie, you may want to check out the new book “Ending Female Pain”. Click *here* for my review of it, plus more links. A lot of the time, doctors don’t have any help to offer, or can see nothing “clinically” wrong, when there *is* something wrong — something that perhaps can be fixed.

]]> By: Melanie http://myobsaidwhat.com/2009/12/07/welcome-to-the-tight-vagina-club/comment-page-1/#comment-2367 Melanie Mon, 28 Dec 2009 23:39:25 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=631#comment-2367 While I think that might not have been the best thing to say, my vaginal birth ruined my vagina- sex has been a lot different ever since then, even though my gyn insists that I'm "normal." I've done kegels, used every single machine that advertises results, and....nothing. It sucks. So yes, vaginal birth might not ruin everyone's vagina, but it did mine. While I think that might not have been the best thing to say, my vaginal birth ruined my vagina- sex has been a lot different ever since then, even though my gyn insists that I’m “normal.” I’ve done kegels, used every single machine that advertises results, and….nothing. It sucks. So yes, vaginal birth might not ruin everyone’s vagina, but it did mine.

]]> By: RB http://myobsaidwhat.com/2009/12/07/welcome-to-the-tight-vagina-club/comment-page-1/#comment-1663 RB Tue, 08 Dec 2009 05:45:42 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=631#comment-1663 What a horrible thing to say at such a time! What is with people thinking that normals births "ruin" the vagina?! After 2 vaginal births, my husband swears I am tighter. I would think he was just being nice, but my midwife said the same thing to me. I had a 3rd degree episiotomy with my first (grr), and the resulting scar tissue made crowning a bit hard with my 2nd baby. Had a little natural tearing from that, and my midwife gave me 2 or 3 stitches. One of them felt a little funny later and I asked her to check it out. We had/have an open and humorous relationship, and she said "well honestly dear, you have the vagina of a virgin" LOL. I laughed and my husband grinned widely. There is definitely a right and wrong way/place/time/person to address this kind of thing, and that stupid OB certainly was out of line! I would have fired the jerk and demanded a new one! What a horrible thing to say at such a time!

What is with people thinking that normals births “ruin” the vagina?! After 2 vaginal births, my husband swears I am tighter. I would think he was just being nice, but my midwife said the same thing to me. I had a 3rd degree episiotomy with my first (grr), and the resulting scar tissue made crowning a bit hard with my 2nd baby. Had a little natural tearing from that, and my midwife gave me 2 or 3 stitches. One of them felt a little funny later and I asked her to check it out. We had/have an open and humorous relationship, and she said “well honestly dear, you have the vagina of a virgin” LOL. I laughed and my husband grinned widely. There is definitely a right and wrong way/place/time/person to address this kind of thing, and that stupid OB certainly was out of line! I would have fired the jerk and demanded a new one!

]]> By: R http://myobsaidwhat.com/2009/12/07/welcome-to-the-tight-vagina-club/comment-page-1/#comment-1662 R Tue, 08 Dec 2009 05:10:15 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=631#comment-1662 I was hoping that one of the benefits of the birth of my first would be some stretching! In the end, I had a c-section and sex hurt for a year! I tried to explain it to my OB and she didn't get it. I was hoping that one of the benefits of the birth of my first would be some stretching! In the end, I had a c-section and sex hurt for a year! I tried to explain it to my OB and she didn’t get it.

]]> By: Lindsey http://myobsaidwhat.com/2009/12/07/welcome-to-the-tight-vagina-club/comment-page-1/#comment-1656 Lindsey Tue, 08 Dec 2009 00:01:40 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=631#comment-1656 Skin cells grow together in a zigzag-type pattern (for lack of a better term), and so a natural tear will be in a zigzag-type pattern and an episiotomy is a cut/slice in a straight pattern, going against how your skin naturally forms (and heals). If left alone, a minor tear will grow back together more naturally than an episiotomy can be stitched (and less risk of things healing up "too tight"). I know my home birth midwives very rarely have women who tear, but when they do they generally are first degree and mom just stays home and heals (I know I'd hate to go to the hospital after a normal home birth just to be stitched up!)...only the 3rd and 4th degree tears typically go in for stitching. Skin cells grow together in a zigzag-type pattern (for lack of a better term), and so a natural tear will be in a zigzag-type pattern and an episiotomy is a cut/slice in a straight pattern, going against how your skin naturally forms (and heals). If left alone, a minor tear will grow back together more naturally than an episiotomy can be stitched (and less risk of things healing up “too tight”).

I know my home birth midwives very rarely have women who tear, but when they do they generally are first degree and mom just stays home and heals (I know I’d hate to go to the hospital after a normal home birth just to be stitched up!)…only the 3rd and 4th degree tears typically go in for stitching.

]]> By: GCJ http://myobsaidwhat.com/2009/12/07/welcome-to-the-tight-vagina-club/comment-page-1/#comment-1655 GCJ Mon, 07 Dec 2009 23:31:34 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=631#comment-1655 I had heard/read that stitches can itch, hurt, pull, etc., and my midwife tries not to use stitches (though surely there must be some degree of tearing that benefits from stitching). She recommended seaweed (nori--the same stuff you buy to make sushi rolls) to promote healing: take a piece of nori, get it good and wet, and lay it up against the tear. That was very soothing to the tissue and it healed without complications. It's not picture-perfect, but I've never had aspirations of being a perineum model anyhow. :) I had heard/read that stitches can itch, hurt, pull, etc., and my midwife tries not to use stitches (though surely there must be some degree of tearing that benefits from stitching). She recommended seaweed (nori–the same stuff you buy to make sushi rolls) to promote healing: take a piece of nori, get it good and wet, and lay it up against the tear. That was very soothing to the tissue and it healed without complications. It’s not picture-perfect, but I’ve never had aspirations of being a perineum model anyhow. :)

]]> By: JPeaslee http://myobsaidwhat.com/2009/12/07/welcome-to-the-tight-vagina-club/comment-page-1/#comment-1653 JPeaslee Mon, 07 Dec 2009 22:57:47 +0000 http://myobsaidwhat.com/?p=631#comment-1653 Wait, you didn't get stitches? REALLY? What was it like healing? Do you think it hurt less than stitches, because my sister got stitches and she hurts so bad, it's awful. I didn't even know you could skip the whole stitching thing. Although I guess that makes sense, now that I think about it. Wait, you didn’t get stitches? REALLY? What was it like healing? Do you think it hurt less than stitches, because my sister got stitches and she hurts so bad, it’s awful.

I didn’t even know you could skip the whole stitching thing. Although I guess that makes sense, now that I think about it.

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