Wow. Proof that medical school doesn’t make you smart.

You know, I had a c-section with my daughter. Not necessarily by choice, but it happened. My surgery went perfectly, my daughter (now 1) is exceptionally healthy and I couldn’t have asked for a better birthing experience.

Some of you mothers are really on some sort of pedestal – you are no better of a parent than I just because you were able to have your baby naturally. I did the research and discussed it with my doctor, and a c-section truly was the best option for me. So what I’m trying to say is – get over yourselves. The fact that you gave birth does not mean that you know more than a medical professional. Sheesh.

M,

I think the point the first two posts are making is that the Dr. Was moronically suggesting that delivering babies vaginally somehow ruins your internal tightness. Hence, after the post-partum internal exam, she said she was glad she’d had c-sections. This has nothing to do with someone being on a pedestal because of the way the baby was brought into the world. That’s not at all what this post was about.

I totally understand and agree that there is a lot of prejudice and prejudgement about c-sections. I’ve had 2 natural vaginal childbirths, but am thankful if a true emergency arose, I would have had the option of a c-section. Pregnancy is such a personalized thing and there is no “one size fits all” option. Unfortunately, many women are scared into c-sections because if they question the dr, they’re “putting their child at risk” even when that’s not always true. But no one should ever assume that if a woman had a c-section, she was uninformed, gullible and it wasn’t necessary. That’s just silly.

I submitted this entry. I did have some pelvic floor damage and it was the second time I’d been in her office since I’d had the baby. I was worried and upset and needed support, not a comment that essentially meant, “I told you so,” or “You wouldn’t have this problem if you had a c-section.”

The saddest part is that it wasn’t the vaginal birth that caused my issues but the fact I was close to giving birth but the OB on call wasn’t there yet. I was comfortably pushing on my hands and knees, but the nurse freaked out and told me to get on my back in order to slow down so I “wouldn’t tear.” I spent another 25 min like that when it probably would have only taken 5-10 min tops in the other position. It’s easy to see it all in hindsight, after having my second one so easily and with ZERO damage. I had no interference that time, thank God.

This comment reminds me of how my OB admitted she’d had two c/s, and was lecturing me on wanting to do another VBAC. I’m sure her personal experience, rather than medical, was definitely getting in the way when she had that “conversation” with me (that she then charged me a copay for).

You see, doc, this is *my* uterus, not yours… !