Comments on: "This Is Man Blood…"

By: CCindy

CCindy — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 17:55:19 +0000

Kati, I am sorry and that is disgusting. If he had said something funny after the danger had passed to lighten the mood it would have been one thing, but to say that after delivering a still born baby. The guy needs to find the hospital chaplin/psyhic department to deal with his dysfunction.

By: Natalia

Natalia — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 16:07:12 +0000

This makes me sick. It’s bad enough said at a happy birth; 10 times worse after one’s baby has died. Kati, I hope you got back sometime with a formal complaint. However, I lost a baby similarly and know that there was too much else going on for me to pursue anything like that very far.

Heartfelt condolences and hugs, Kati.

By: Mary

Mary — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 05:10:23 +0000

The first shock of this comment made me laugh… Now I am sick to my stomach about it.

By: Molly

Molly — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 21:01:47 +0000

It reminds me of people who say “Its OK for me to make racist comments because I have a minority friend”… No! Still doesn’t make it right.

By: Molly

Molly — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 20:59:47 +0000

I think “power trip” is exactly why the vast majority of OBs become OBs. You’ve hit the nail right on the head.

By: Echo

Echo — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 00:40:53 +0000

Why is it that all the misogynistic comments are followed up after being called on their behavior with “well my birth went *exactly* like that so I can say it if I want to”?

By: Alice

Alice — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 16:34:59 +0000

With few exceptions (like unmanaged gestational diabetes), a woman’s body won’t grow a baby too big for her to safely push out.

By: Kat

Kat — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 16:00:08 +0000

Babies over ten pounds are born just fine all the time. However the “business as usual” practices of some doctors make this less likely. Time limits set on labor (that are not based on evidence-based care), restrictions on mother’s freedom of movement, or enforcing positions for pushing that reduce the pelvic opening, for example.

Some doctors require a woman to schedule an “elective” c-section based only on ultrasound measurements estimating a size over 8 pounds, even though it is known that ultrasound weight estimates in the third trimester have a margin of error +/- two pounds, and 8-10 pounds is by no means too big to be birthed vaginally.

I have a friend who has birthed several 12 pound babies at home. She is tall and has a large bone structure, but under the care of some doctors she would certainly be told her babies were “too big” to be born (even though obviously they weren’t, since she had them at home with *no* complications).

The doctor quoted above did not believe a woman’s body was capable of birthing a ten pound baby. This isn’t an opinion based on scientific evidence, but the doctor’s own prejudice and personal opinion. That is why it is terrible.

By: Lori

Lori — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 15:52:17 +0000

It implied that in some way her body and her baby were defective. It shows the OB’s ignorance and mistrust of the natural birth process. A 10 lb. baby IS a large baby, but that does not automatically make it impossible for a mother to deliver vaginally, especially when she has the freedom to move around and help her baby along (check out the Lamaze healthy Birth practice #2). Many women give birth to large babies (some over 11 lbs!) without even a tear. The blog TheUnnecesarean.com has many wonderful birth stories of women who have birthed large babies vaginally. It is sad to me that women are being coerced, bullied, and abused into unnecessary cesareans and then made to feel like somehow it was their fault when actually their doctors never even gave them a chance.

By: Helen

Helen — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 15:30:30 +0000

what is so terrible about that comment?